A documentary called The Narcissist’s Playbook is in the works, and I’ve been following it closely. Directed by Mark Vicente — who made HBO’s The Vow — it features something I’ve never seen done before: interviews with self-aware narcissists, alongside experts like Sam Vaknin, Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Richard Grannon, Heather Berlin, and Lee Hammock. Early donor access opens May 30, 2026, with a general release in July 2026. I don’t know yet whether it will be easy to watch, but I do think it could be important.
If you’re ready, the trailer is below. If you’re not, that’s okay too.
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